Yes I agree with all of this except vagina =/= female I’ve seen this phrase (“dying of vagina”) in this fandom a few times and it needs to die a quick, painful death
that’s actually a really interesting question. would a woman with a penis be more or less readily accepted into fanon / fictional worlds, than a woman with a vagina? i think less, considering the prevalence of transmisogyny, but how far does the societal obsession with phallic power go? conversely, a man with a vagina walks into canon - would be he the exception that proves a misogynist fandom?
Lately some of you have been critically responding to Teen Wolf in ways that boggle my mind.
I’m talking specifically about this notion some people have that the show-runners of Teen Wolf have been “queer-baiting” us with Sterek— I’m not going to touch the racism debate with a ten foot pole because, while I disagree about that too, I don’t feel qualified to debate about it with people who are clearly hurt by what has been tactlessly said already. I’m not trying to dismiss the concerns about queer-baiting, because I’ve been a shipper for more than ten years now in many television-based fandoms, and have been a fan of Supernatural for longer than is probably mentally healthy for somebody who dislikes being queer-baited. However, I find it unreasonable and unfair to accuse the show-runners of Teen Wolf of the same when, so far, there is only evidence to support the opposite.
um it’s precisely because of all the queer-baiting on every other mainstream show that we’re nervous. it’s not “jumping the gun” to be cautious of any hint about representation. most shows handle queer issues and homosexual relationships (and heterosexual relationships, lbr) with no finesse whatsoever. it’s especially important for a potentially landmark bit of representation that the relationship in question be approached well. Jeff Davis doesn’t owe the shippers Sterekl (more importantly, queer people don’t owe television executives our unfettered trust, especially not on promises they haven’t actually made). queer characters would be represented by Danny (a canonically gay character of color) having positive and weighty depiction of a romance; Stiles and Derek are not the be all.
further, Jeff Davis seems to flop about his dedication to sparkle motion with every award he gets; first it’s only gonna “remain in the realm of fanfiction”, then it’s “vote now or we’ll sink this ship”, now it’s ‘teehee we made a ship tease aren’t we clever’. who knows where it’ll go from there? queer baiting isn’t just blatant homophobia, it’s the implication that fans have to convince the showrunner that a same-sex pairing is worth devoting part of his storyline to in a legitimate way (no having someone tease them into a compromising position and then Derek glaring is not legitimate devotion). sure, they’re moving the plotlines forward in a way that could imply Sterek as eventual endgame, and the minor queer representation of Danny and random extras in the crowds are lovely, but i’ll reserve my adoring praise for if or when Jeff Davis delivers on these hints that Stiles is bisexual, that there is potential for a romantic relationship between himself and Derek or anyone else who identifies as male (hey isn’t there already an out gay character on the show who could be quite easily shipped with other male characters? gee am i hallucinating him idk).
really though it comes down to this: when a marginalized group is being teased with some form of representation, we have every right to be wary of being burned yet again. those of you who are excited for every ship tease, great! wonderful! keep on keepin on. those of us who are anxious about yet more negative representation will guard our squee until we see actual results.
and frankly, who are you to tell us how to feel about issues that affect how we and our own relationships are perceived by those around us? feel how you want about Teen Wolf and Jeff Davis, but don’t dare dismiss my concerns as “jumping the gun”. technically, after all, your faith in the show is just as pre-emptive.